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Hello and welcome to Happily Ever After,
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it's me Hannah and today I want to talk about how I manifested my divorce.
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I love a bit of manifesting chat and I have no doubt that manifesting has the
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potential to change,
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like completely change the path of your life for the good and
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But obviously my journey took me on rather an interesting yellow brick road,
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we shall say,
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where yes,
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I manifested the thing that I really didn't want,
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but I will get to that in just a moment.
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First, I wanted to ask you about your second born child.
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And the reason is because I saw this reel this week and it said, I shall read it.
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If you needed something illegal done,
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which one of your kids would you call and why is it your second child?
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And I was like, oh my God.
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Totally, totally is.
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I'm a second child, by the way, and I did loads of illegal things when I was younger.
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Don't tell anyone.
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I don't know why I'm shouting about this on a podcast.
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But, you know, I also wrote about it in my book, How to Divorce Sober.
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So you can see it there.
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But yeah,
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I mean,
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I'm not saying my second born is like going to go out and do loads of illegal things,
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but she's definitely the one that I have observed this week.
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Because we went to a party and it was like a lovely tennis party.
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And everyone's taking part in having a go with the tennis.
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And she did this for a while.
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And then she was like, I'm done with doing what I'm told.
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And, you know, the guys are like, come on, we're going to play dodgeball now.
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Everybody get in the green bit.
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And I watch my daughter and she's like, stood in the blue bit.
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And not only is she not standing where she's meant to be,
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but instead of being in the place so she can get hit by the ball,
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she starts lobbing balls at the instructors.
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And at this point, I'm just like, stood at the back.
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I'm going to get myself out of the way.
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You know,
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the first couple of times I'm like,
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can you take part in this or not throw balls at the instructors?
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But
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I don't know.
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Part of me is like, it was independent woman day for a start, independent international.
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So I was like, go on, just go be a rebel for a while.
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It's not hurting anybody really.
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These balls are like, you know, the squishy ones.
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So yeah, I'm like, she's definitely got that rebel side to her.
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And I was just wondering if you have a second born who is,
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Or if you're a second born like me, and you're a bit of a rebel.
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So I'd love to know if this theory is actually true.
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So let me know.
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And then just a little bit of an update on from last week's podcast,
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I was talking about what to do when you have a bad day,
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because I'd had a couple of bad days,
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like out of the blue.
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So I'm definitely investigating more around perimenopause and how this could be
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affecting my moods.
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And I guess
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trying a few different things to see if over in the next few months,
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if I consistently keep doing them,
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that that will improve my mood.
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So for example,
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I've started seed cycling,
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which if you're not sure what this is,
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just give it a Google,
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but it's where you have a certain type of seeds,
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like two types of seeds for the first half of your cycle,
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and then a different two for the second half.
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And I first learned about this in the book, Period Power.
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which I think is just up there.
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I'm pointing for those on the audio on my bookshelf.
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Like it's somewhere up there.
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It's an excellent book.
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Highly recommend looking into that because so I didn't even know my cycle when I
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first read that book.
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And I was like, what, 38.
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So I knew nothing about when I was ovulating,
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when I didn't even really know when my period would be due.
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I was just winging life.
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And I think up to that point, you probably can.
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And then all of a sudden, like apparently perimenopause can hit people from mid thirties.
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Like I think it's a lot more common than we've led to believe.
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So yeah,
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I'm exploring all of that kind of stuff and seeing if evening primrose oil and seed
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cycling will help me feel a bit more myself,
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I guess.
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And just to
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balance out some of these hormonal fluctuations so that i don't have those really
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shit days where i feel hopeless and sad um but you know if i do i've got last
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week's episode to listen to again just to remind myself that it's all okay we're
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gonna be okay we're not hopeless waste of space so that's the plan um
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Oh, and the other thing is I've really enjoyed starting getting my steps up again.
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So I'm trying to do 10,000 steps a day and I'm not managing it,
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but at least I am getting out for walks in a way that I didn't used to.
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But because of this,
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Instagram has started showing me relentlessly that those walking pad things that
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you have under your desk.
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And now I'm like, Siri, I'm like this close.
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On the audio, my fingers are very close together.
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Like this close to getting a standing desk and a walking pad.
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And I'm trying to put myself off from doing it because, you know, it's money, ain't it?
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And am I really going to use it?
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Is it going to be one of those treadmills in the corners that we use as a cloak, coat stand?
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But I really want one.
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Like a really...
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I love it.
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Everyone's, everybody in the reels are like, Alastair Stone, just walking 10,000 steps a day.
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And I'm like, yeah, man.
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And I just feel like being more active.
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Like I noticed when I sit down and I'm working that my lower back starts to seize up.
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It's not going to happen if you're standing and walking.
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Anyway,
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feel free to tell me that that's a stupid idea if you believe it is,
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or chime in and tell me how fabulous it is having a standing or walking desk.
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I would love both ends of the spectrum.
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Okay, so on to this week's episode, which is 99.
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Can you believe I've been yabbering away for 99 episodes of Happily Ever After?
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Oh, so I'm thinking about next week, because that'll be episode 100.
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How do you think I should celebrate?
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I have nothing planned as of yet.
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So very open to suggestions.
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Weirdly, I will be recording this episode on my 42nd birthday, unless I do it the day before.
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But basically, it's going to be my birthday.
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And I talked on this podcast about how I felt turning 40 two years ago.
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I can't even tell you what episode it was, but it's called something like how I felt turning 40.
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So you should be able to find it.
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And then it's going to air on the spring equinox.
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I've just noticed that.
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One of my eyebrows raises without me actually being in control of it when I get excited.
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So I just did it twice then.
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So I am going to have one hell of a party on the 21st for the spring equinox to
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welcome in that balancing gorgeous energy and use it to manifest really cool things
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for spring.
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So I'm having a beach fire ceremony, which you are very welcome to come to.
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And I'll pop the link in the show notes.
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So that'll be really cool.
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So that stuff's happening,
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but it's not specifically like,
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woo,
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it's a hundred days,
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a hundred days,
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a hundred episodes of happily ever after.
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So I'd love, yeah, send some suggestions, but I'm thinking I might do some kind of giveaway.
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Um,
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or a competition or something like that.
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So yeah,
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drop it in the comments or send me an email,
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hannah at hannahharvey.uk and I shall reply forthwith.
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Great.
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So yeah, onto today's topic, which is how I manifested my divorce.
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Yay.
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No, I absolutely bloody love talking about manifesting.
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So the reason I wanted to talk about it today is because on Monday I hosted a
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spring workshop called Re-Emerge.
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And I took everybody through this process where we slowed down.
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We worked on getting clarity on what we want for spring and why.
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And then I taught.
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basics of manifesting and then we practice doing it so that's all in that workshop
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um and to follow up i then took everybody through a guided meditation to kind of
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it's like the bit you do before you manifest like really get your energy and your
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vibes up because then you start magnetizing and
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manifesting the things that you want so that's the idea of the ceremony and the
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process I shared was exactly what I did for the month before my marriage broke down
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and then I did it every day pretty much for about the next three years um so yeah I
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guess it brought it all back and I'm like oh I love a bit of manifesting and it's
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like I haven't properly done it the way that I used to do it
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for quite some time because lots of other things have come in like spiritual things
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and working with goddesses.
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But sometimes it's just so nice to go back to the basics and be like,
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oh yeah,
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this was my route into all of this.
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So I have used it like over the process,
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obviously the divorce happened,
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but I used it to sell a house that really shouldn't have sold.
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We're in the middle of COVID.
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And people were not buying this kind of house at this kind of time.
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But I made it happen.
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I used it to find a house when the odds were literally against me.
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Like I needed to rent somewhere like next week.
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And there was nothing.
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But then something showed up in my sphere.
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That was exactly what I needed.
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Exactly the budget I needed in the space that I needed it.
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And I did that twice.
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Like there's something about me in houses that like when I want a house, it happens.
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And then I have used it to find the perfect babysitter.
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So I was really struggling with being a single parent and having children in
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completely different places.
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Like the issue I have is my kids are six years apart.
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So one is, you know, at primary school, one's at secondary school.
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And I had this issue where I had to be getting one from one place at the same time
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as getting one from the other.
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And this became my anxiety dream.
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In fact,
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it still is my anxiety dream that I'll be in the wrong place,
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picking up the wrong one and the other one is stranded.
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And obviously my phone won't work.
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Does anybody else get that in their dreams when you're like, why won't my phone work?
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I can't remember.
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And everything gets really slow.
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So yes, I used it to find the perfect woman.
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She is still in my life, Julie.
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I love her to the moon and back.
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I never want her to not be in my life.
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Not only does she look after my daughter when I have to be in lots of different places,
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but she also does things like my washing and she empties the dishwasher.
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When I come home, she's fed my kid, put her to bed,
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Clean the kitchen.
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Like this is dream stuff.
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And I wrote out exactly what I wanted.
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So yeah, it could be coincidence, but I don't care.
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I found my dream lady and I will continue to use this process to do all my other dreams.
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And I also did the exact same thing.
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I don't want to equate finding a babysitter who I do love more than life itself.
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with finding the love of my life but I did I used it to find Dan my boyfriend and I
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did it in a slightly different way for Dan because I wanted to be a lot more
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specific so there's like a whole raft of things like I've just started actually
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doing this mentoring people one-to-one to show them exactly
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how to do this process because it is quite in depth and you need to be really
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specific when you wanna call in the right person.
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But yeah,
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you need to go through like all these different criteria to make sure that you're
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calling in the right person and it worked like a charm.
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So if you're currently looking for love and you're coming up with all of the duds
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on the dating apps,
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then drop me a message and you can try my method.
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I'll talk you through it.
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Okay.
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So the whole thing about manifesting is it's really bloody easy.
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Like there's not a lot to it and we're already doing it every day anyway.
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So, you know, that whole thing about what you think becomes your reality.
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Well, that's basically it.
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Like whatever is going on in your brain, whether it's positive or negative or
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That's kind of what you're calling in,
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which is why last week I was so keen to share what to do on a bad day,
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because this is not about ignoring bad days and trying to fake it till you make it.
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But there are things you can do to honor those days.
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And then get yourself kind of back out of it.
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So I'll get to that in a minute because,
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yeah,
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I have kind of thoughts on the whole toxic positivity thing.
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So,
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yes,
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because we're already manifesting all the time,
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because when we think that becomes our reality,
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we may as well make our thoughts count and use our thoughts to take us closer to
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what we want rather than away from it.
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So if you're spiritual you can definitely add that element on top but you
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absolutely don't need to be spiritual for this to work.
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It's okay to just have a faith in yourself and all of this will still work.
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It's just about what you connect to.
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It might be the Holy Spirit.
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It might be Jesus.
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It might be Allah.
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It might be the universe.
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It doesn't really matter.
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It could be
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your inner spirit, connecting to your spirit, the one that is in your body.
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So long as you're connecting to something that feels bigger than you,
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I say bigger than you and still use your spirit,
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but your spirit is kind of bigger than you because it's outside of your body as
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well as inside.
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Yeah, then you can make this work.
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So when I started out, I was very apathetic to religion because I'd grown up,
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with a dad for a vicar, love him, fully respect his choices.
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But I was just a bit done with churches and religious stuff.
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And I didn't particularly want to engage with manifesting from that kind of spiritual side.
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I came to it,
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however,
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feeling I was really anxious and I was really suffering from intrusive thoughts.
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So I really...
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wanted something to get me out of that state because I knew staying in that kind of
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downward spiral was not gonna help me get out,
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I guess.
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So I was willing to give anything a shot.
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So my way was to connect to the vastness of the universe and being kind of all of
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almost like the scientific side of life,
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like sitting and just imagining how tiny I am in comparison
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to this entire universe and yet I'm here.
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Do you get what I mean?
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Like just feeling that gratitude of there's this whole wide world and universe and
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stars and like just it's like literally mind-blowing.
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So that's how I got into that feeling of like really getting my energy up and being like, what?
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this and that's and here I am and you can do it through that you can do it through
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gratitude and just really feeling grateful so there's loads of way in and then the
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more I got into it the more I wanted to feel supported by the universe like I
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wanted to feel held and like there is somebody there or something looking out for
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me
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So I work with that and that's the energy I'm going about in my day with.
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Like I sat down and gone, oh, I'm being held and supported.
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Oh, isn't that lovely to feel that somebody's got your back.
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And then I go out into the world with that energy and feeling supported.
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And then I'm so much more likely to pass that on to the next person.
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So it's like this beautiful knock-on effect and it doesn't have to be spiritual if
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you don't want it to be.
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like these days my manifesting has brought a lot of spiritual influences in and
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religious ones so i'm currently working with goddess energy which is very it
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there's some hindu goddess energy coming through and some buddhist um and i say god
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s like that's the one that i gravitate towards but i would work with medicine
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buddha for example if i've got a poorly friend i'll
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work with that energy of like I am sending healing to this person or I'm sending
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healing to myself or my kids or whatever it is so but for the most part I work with
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um this kind of goddess energy and I love Marici who is she's got three heads so
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she brings this energy of compassion magnetizing energy and wrathful so
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It's kind of like a really fun set of energies to work with depending on what
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you're doing for the day.
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Okay, so this is how I manifest.
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I do it in kind of four stages.
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So number one is I'll meditate for about 10 to 20 minutes,
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focusing first on kind of calming my breath,
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centering myself,
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coming into my body,
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and then using whatever intention I've set for today to
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I'll focus on the intention to kind of bring that into my body as well.
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So today I was working with clarity because I knew I had this podcast to record and
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then I'm going to record next week's love note reset or like at least a couple of
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the meditations for that because that is going to be all about
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little 10 minute manif manifesting meditations to help you with your manifesting so
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I had all this stuff going on that I wanted clarity on when I sat down so that is
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the energy that I'm coming to this with basically so then I manifest for like 10
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minutes so once I've calmed down got quiet then I sit and manifest and
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And how you manifest and how you do this will differ for everyone because it
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depends on how you learn.
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So for me, I'm a kinesthetic learner mainly, and I like to write it out.
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So when I was at school, if I was studying for an exam, I would write everything out.
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Do you know what I mean?
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Like write literally everything that I needed to learn.
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I'd use different colors.
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to get the key points, bullet point them.
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And this is how I would cram for my exams the next day because I rarely did it in advance.
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And that's how I manifest now.
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I'm like,
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I am so happy and grateful that my kids are healthy and surrounded by people that
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love them.
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Thank you.
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So I'll use words like thank you.
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Thank you for my body that is strong and healthy and my perfect weight of
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let's say 70 kilos, that kind of thing.
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So trying to get very specific and positive.
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So you need to be careful that whatever it is that you're writing or doing is
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slanted to the positive,
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not the negative.
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So you wouldn't want to write down, I'm so happy and grateful I'm not sick anymore.
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It's the other way around.
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I'm so happy and grateful that I'm healthy and vibrant and feel alive and wanna run
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around and feel energetic and whatever it is that you're wanting to call in.
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So sit and do that for like 10 minutes.
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Sorry, I'll explain the other types of learning as well.
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So another way that a kinesthetic learner might wanna do this is I like to do
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embodiment practices through yoga.
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So when I teach yoga, we always have an intention.
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And I will remind everybody of this intention over and over again.
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I tell people when to breathe.
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I tell people to connect to the intention because the whole thing is that you're
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giving your brain a fucking second to switch off and allowing your body to start to
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embody the things that we're trying to do.
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Okay, so it might be connecting to spirit for the day.
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So I might say inhale into your heart space,
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exhale connecting into your spirit,
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something like that.
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And through doing that kind of movement medicine stuff,
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I'm starting to embody some of the things that I want to manifest into my life and
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allowing my body to
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to understand it as well, because that's the tricky thing.
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If your body doesn't get it,
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it's gonna sabotage you because it doesn't understand what's going on.
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Okay, another way is audio.
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So you kinesthetic learner, you could be an audio learner.
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And a really great thing for audio learners to do is to write out what you wanna
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manifest and then read it into your voice note.
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And then you can use that to listen back.
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Or you can just speak.
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You don't need to write at all.
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You can just use your voice notes to be like, to say it out loud.
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I'm so happy and grateful that I've got 10 new clients.
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Give it a timeframe as well.
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Let's say 10 new clients by the end of spring.
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Perfect.
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You don't have to have loads of things either.
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It could just be one big thing that you're working with.
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And then the other type of learner is visual.
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So if you're visual,
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you're going to want to either go inside and meditate and just stay meditating,
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visualizing all the things that you want,
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how you're going to feel,
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what it's going to look like,
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who's there,
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that kind of thing.
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And then the other obvious one is do a vision board.
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So think about the things that you want, flick through a magazine,
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And whatever is calling to you,
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be like,
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yeah,
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ripping that baby out and then make your vision board so that every day when you
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come to do your manifesting,
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you've got something visual to focus on.
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And you can be like,
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right,
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I'm going to look at that picture of a woman looking vibrant and strong and healthy
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and use that to help you then visualize it and bring in all this good energy.
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And if you want to do that with me and Lou, we're doing that tonight at The Bound.
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But obviously you can join us online,
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but be very quick because obviously I need to know so that I can give you the Zoom
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link so you can join.
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If you are joining today,
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drop me a message at Hannah Harvey UK on Instagram so I don't miss that you've joined.
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And yeah, you can also do the replay of that.
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So if you're hearing this in next spring,
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for example,
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and you're like,
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yeah,
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I want to do a spring vision board,
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then come and join.
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The link is in the show notes and you'll get the replay.
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Okay.
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So once you've done all of that,
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The idea is that as you're doing it,
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you're like really getting your emotions as big as you can,
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like really tapping into how are you going to feel when you've got this thing that
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you want?
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What will it look like?
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Who's there?
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What are the numbers?
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What are the,
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you know,
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the dates get really specific with all this stuff and feel it in your body,
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like feel it in your fingers and your toes and,
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you
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even in your bits, like get turned on.
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Like that is where the magic happens when you can get yourself into a state of like,
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I am excited about this.
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And how lovely if you've spent,
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you know,
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the day before feeling really shit to then be like,
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I can get excited about this stuff.
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It's lovely.
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It's lovely.
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Yeah.
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And the beauty is that you're basically changing your state from to yes,
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world,
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let's have your fun.
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Okay, so we definitely know which type of person gets closer to their goals.
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And it's definitely the one who
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is excited by life, isn't it?
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It's like with everything, whatever you enjoy, you're going to do well at.
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And because you're enjoying it,
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you'll magnetize the people in because they're like,
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I want a taste of that.
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So you might be thinking, why would I want to manifest my divorce?
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And the thing is, I didn't.
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i didn't want to get divorced if you've read my book you will know that was not
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something i wanted i wanted us to sort everything out and to be happy again so
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that's what i was writing down i am like i am so happy and grateful that my
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relationship with my husband is thriving that he is healthy um
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and all that, like the relationship type of things.
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And then on top of that,
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I was also writing about how I wanted to write a book,
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how I wanted time to do this stuff.
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And it,
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I mean,
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it took me a little while to realize that because I was unhappy and working on
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feeling better every day and all the stuff that I was writing,
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Yeah, about a month later, it was like, boom, something happened.
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And it just meant the marriage was over.
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And I honestly believe that that is because the things that I was writing about
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could not coexist with me being married.
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There was a lot of things that came about after my, you know, after we split up.
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that I just don't believe they could have happened unless we split up.
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Like it was required for us to go through that process to be where we are now.
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And I have all those things that I wrote down.
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Like I have time now because I'm a co-parent, half of the week I don't have my kids.
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Did not enjoy that at all to begin with, at all.
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It was like, be careful what you wish for.
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But now, again, written about in my book, I promise you that it does get easier.
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So if you're in that space of like,
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I don't want to have half my time without my children,
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it's horrible.
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And I understand that.
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But I've got to a point now where I can really enjoy my alone time as well and use
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that time really well to nourish myself and my needs,
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do my job,
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see my boyfriend, like all of these beautiful things that come into my life.
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It's possible to enjoy them when I'm on my own, as well as when I have my children.
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So yeah, it took a while to see that I had manifested the divorce.
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But when I did, I was like, I'm a witch.
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I'm magic.
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Oh my God, this is amazing.
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And I could see that
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it was actually an opportunity for us.
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Cause the other thing is that I do now have a really good,
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healthy relationship with my ex-husband and we're able to do things just in a
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really collaborative way that I could never have envisaged even like two years ago.
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So it's all come about in the end.
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So it's kind of,
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as you're manifesting and things are coming up,
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some of them might not be seem or be as positive as you were hoping.
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And I just want to encourage you to kind of trust that process and see obstacles as opportunities,
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because there's a really high chance that you need this thing in order to get to
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where you want.
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And weirdly,
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So I picked a card from Gabrielle Bernstein's The Universe Has Your Back card deck
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for everybody who did the workshop the other night.
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And the one I picked for anybody doing the replay was this one,
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which is obstacles are detours in the right direction.
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So I was like, ah, good.
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Like it's just that reminder that it's not always gonna pan out exactly as you envision.
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envision yeah but just keep the faith keep doing it keep going if it gets a bit
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overwhelming don't do the manifesting bit maybe just come back to the breathing and
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receiving that feeling of being held by the universe and trusting but yes a note on
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toxic positivity this is not fake it till you make it stuff
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We are,
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you know,
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acting and writing as if it's already happened,
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but not to override existing feelings.
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So if you're sad,
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I really want you to refer back to last week's episode 98,
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where you've got to honour these emotions and allow them to come up.
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Spending a day feeling sad is not going to derail all of your manifesting stuff.
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And maybe you don't even need to spend a day feeling sad.
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If you actually spent a moment being like, come on, what's going on?
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That might just be enough for your subconscious,
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your brain,
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whatever it is,
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the maiden within you to go,
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thank you for hearing me.
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I feel seen.
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Like whenever you've had a conversation with somebody where they've listened to you
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and you feel seen,
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it takes like 15 minutes to,
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To go from resentment to, oh, okay, everything's fine now.
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So it's really important to just spend that little bit of time going, what's going on?
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Because otherwise, it's going to live in your body anyway.
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And then your body is going to sabotage everything.
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So it's absolutely pointless exercise, ignoring the negative emotions.
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Give them space to breathe, honor them as they come up.
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um and maybe it could be like i'll i'll give you 15 to 20 minutes to tell me what's
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going on and then i'm going to take you by the hand and we're going to go for a
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nice walk take in the abundance around us tap into that feeling of gratitude and
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then maybe do some dreaming together how nice so yeah and you know
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Use your friends,
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use your therapist,
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talk through all this stuff and take positive action to feel better.
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Like it's possible to do both of these things and be successful at manifesting.
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Okay, so now we know, we know how to manifest.
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We know that it's really easy,
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but so is going for a walk or doing some yoga or going to the gym.
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The hard thing about manifesting is doing it.
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Like actually creating the habit where you're like,
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this is something I'm going to commit to because it's really easy,
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isn't it?
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To just let life get in the way and be like, oh, I'm not going to do it.
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So for that reason, next week I have created a little...
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reset the love note reset which i'd love you to come and join um and the focus for
(00:36:20):
this reset is manifesting the spring that you want and it's going to be a five-day
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challenge that will help you get in the habit of manifesting regularly so
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You can sign up for free using this link,
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which is hannahharveyuk.substack.com forward slash manifest.
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And that will give you a code for you to access all of my Love Notes membership for
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30 days for free.
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which means you'll get next week's reset.
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But you can also find on there the re-emerge spring workshop, which I've been talking about.
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That costs 15 quid for people to come,
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but you can just get it for free if you would like to using that code.
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And yeah, you can also do last month's reset challenge, which was seven days of calm.
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So there's loads of things on there.
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You just have to make sure you do it all within the next month.
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And yeah, go get stuck in and see what you think.
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And if you're listening to this episode in like a year's time, that code will still work.
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So you can jump straight in.
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So once again, that's hannahharvey.substack.com forward slash manifest.
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All right, that's it.
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That's all I got to tell you for today.
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So get in touch.
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Tell me about your second child.
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tell me what you I should do sorry I can't get my words out now I'm too excited
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tell me what I should do for my 100th episode to celebrate that and yeah tell me
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about manifesting have you tried it have you manifested something crazy into your
(00:38:13):
life like super quickly has it not worked for you tell me everything about
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manifesting because I'd love to hear from you
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All right.
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See you.
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Have a great week.
